“Do you know why people get together at Christmas? Because every time they do it might be the last time. Every Christmas is last Christmas.”
— Danny Pink,
I know, I know, this is a bit of a sad quote for Christmas. But I also think that it’s a beautiful quote and I love the sentiment behind it. Christmas is a time where Family and Friends get together and enjoy each other’s company. Gifts are exchanged, but more importantly, love is exchanged. Whether we tell each other through the year or only once a year, at Christmas we remember to love each other.
Christmas can also be a time of conflict, as friction often develops when Families come together, but people come together anyways. Because that is what you do on Christmas, you spend time with those you love. Even if those same people you might not always like as much as you could.
Sometimes though families don’t get together at Christmas. Sometimes busy lives get in the way. Sometimes distance. Sometimes the issues seem to big to overcome. But here’s the thing, if every Christmas is last Christmas, that means that some Christmases are also first Christmas. First Christmas without…
So call that family member you haven’t spoke to in years. Resolve that conflict that’s been going on too long. Sure, you can’t guarantee that the other person will respond positively. But at least you’ll have tried. You’ll have taken the first step. And maybe you won’t have to regret a last Christmas spent apart. Maybe you’ll make a new memory to cherish and remember for years to come.
I’ve experienced Christmases that involve conflict, anger, frustration and tears. But there has also been love. Lots of love. And here’s the thing, the love far outweighs the conflict. And I wouldn’t trade that for anything.